We Invite you to our next meeting - 7:00pm on The SECOND TUESDAY at Plymouth Congregational Church . . . .We are focused on parents of gay & lesbian children & also supporting people with transgender concerns. . . . .We hope our web site makes a positive difference . . .

SUPPORT
EDUCATION
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We help each other
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PFLAG of Fort Wayne
3925 Shoreline Blvd.
New Haven, IN 46774-2752
Roger -
(260) 749-4987

*pflagfortwayne@gmail.com


About PFLAG - Ft Wayne

Resources & Links
lower in this collumn


PFLAG - National Chapter

mail pflagfortwayne@gmail.com

pflag
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Kenya Flag
See Roger & Rachel's
Kenya Safari pictures & videos


We are here to help you in confidentiality.
Please feel free and comfortable
to contact us.


Click above to learn how to
show support as a straight ally

Roger says - Pro Family
means loving & supporting
ALL your children.


Indiana
Click for Indiana Equality

Who Cares About
Gay Marriage ?

A straight person's guide to learn what you might want to know.


Feel free to contact Roger,
the WebGuy and president
about
anything in PFLAG confidentially.
Concerned parents are welcome.
Include PFLAG in the subject line.

pflagfortwayne@gmail.com

Helpful Links

Reality Magazine


Helpful Resources

Fort Wayne Resources

PFLAG - Fort Wayne
A support group for parents and friends of gays and lesbians - you are now on our page.
Every 2nd Tuesday
Plymouth Congregational Church
501 W Berry St
(260) 749-4987 - Roger & Rachel

PFLAG - FW Transgender Support

Center for Nonviolence
235 W Creighton Ave, Fort Wayne, 46807 - (260) 456-4112
Heal from violence in life and express your self without violence.

N.I.D.L.

Northeast Indiana Diversity Library
in the Helmke Library - lower level, Room B41
contact: thelibrary@nidl.info

Gay Fort Wayne http://www.gayfortwayne.com/
Informative web site with information & help.

Girth & Mirth Chapter of Fort Wayne http://www.girthmirth.org
E-mail: info@girthmirth.org
(260) 750-5313

Lesbian Growth and Support Group
Fort Wayne's Women's Bureau
303 E Washington
(260) 424-7977


Prism c/o United Sexualities
Wednesday night @ 7:00 pm
IPFW Walb Student Union Room 110
2101 East Coliseum Boulevard
(260) 481-6609

Indiana Resources

Indiana Equality
Justice, Inc
Indiana Stonewall Democrats
Indianapolis Youth Group (no link)
Tri-State Alliance -
Outlines Newsmagazine (for making subscriptions only)
Youth Assistance Organization www.youth.org ----
Indiana Out Youth Group -
GayIndy.Org - http://www.gayindy.org/
.. Indianapolis Gay/Lesbian Switchboard
.. Diversity, Inc. -
.. Chris Gonzalez Library and Archives -
.. Indy Pride -
IUPU Advocate - http://www.iupui.edu/~advocate/ Not found at this or new address http://www.iupui.edu/~advocate/newsite.html
Indiana Civil Liberties Union -

National Organizations

PFLAG National - http://www.pflag.org/
Gay & Lesbian National Hotline - the only non-profit, nationwide, toll-free info, referral and peer-counseling line for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and questioning people of all ages.
1-888-THE-GLNH or (1-888-843-4564)
Human Rights Campaign
..Family Project homepage for Parenting
..Family Project for Marriage & Relationship Recognition
Lambda Legal Defense and Education Fund
GLSEN (Gay, Lesbian, Straight Education Network) - http://www.glsen.org/
Youth Assistance Organization - http://youth.org/
.. The PERSON Project -
Youth Resource
GLAAD - Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation
GenderPAC
LLEGO: National Latina/o Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Organization)
And Justice For All

Quick Emergency Help

Trevor Project
To promote tolerance for gay & questioning teenagers, and to aid in suicide prevention among that group. 24 hour, toll-free anonymous suicide prevention hotline for gay and questioning teens. (866) 488-7386
Suicide Prevention Coalition
If you - or someone you know - are having thoughts about suicide, call 1.800.SUICIDE (784-2433). Calls are connected to a certified crisis center nearest your location. Services are available 24 /7.
List of Indiana Suicide and Crisis Hotline numbersNational Suicide & Crisis Hotlines (list)
Gay & Lesbian National Hotline

GLBT National Help Center
Serving gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender & questioning people by providing free & confidential peer-support. 1.888.843-4564.

AIDS Task Force 2124 Fairfield Avenue, Ft.W
(260) 744-1144
The AIDS Task Force provides HIV and AIDS prevention, education, advocacy, and support to people in northeast Indiana.

F a m i l y

For Parents of GLBT Children
(besides this one)
PFLAG National
PFLAG Transgender Network
We Are Family

Children of Gay or Lesbian Parents

Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere (COLAGE) - organization supporting young people with gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender parents.
Marina Gatto Equality for All! - A website of a young COLAGEr activist.
Sol's Pages - The website of a young-adult COLAGEr activist.
Families Like Mine - Dedicated to decreasing isolation for people with parents who are LGBT, and bringing voice to the experiences of these families.

For Gay Parents

Human Rights Campaign - Online education and advocacy for LGBT families.
..Family Project
homepage for Parenting
..Family Project - Marriage & Relationship
Love Makes a Family - the renowned traveling photo-text exhibit distributed by Family Diversity Projects.
Family Pride Coalition - advance the well-being of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgendered parents and their families.
Gay Parent Magazine - http://www.gayparentmag.com/

Misc.

PFLAG Transgender Network -
We Are Family - http://www.waf.org/

Spouses of Gay or Lesbian partners

Straight Spouse Network

Ft. Wayne Accepting Churches

There are other churches with varying degrees of understanding and acceptance. Those listed below are among the most active in support.---

Brigade of Light (YWCA)
Rev. Carolyn Christie 432-9168

Lincolnshire Church of the Brethren
6404 S Calhoun St
Fort Wayne, IN 46807
260-456-1993
lincolnshire.cob@verizon.net

Crescent Avenue United Methodist Church
1232 Crescent Avenue
Fort Wayne, Indiana, 46805
424-4509  e-mail: pastor@caumc.net
You are welcome to Worship @ 9:30 A.M.--- New World Church, Inc.
4720 Speedway Dr.
(219) 471-1911

Open Door Chapel
514 E. Washington Blvd.
Fort Wayne, IN 46802, phone; (260) 744-5430 or 422-2450
GLBT nondenominational church services

Plymouth Congregational Church
501 W Berry St
Fort Wayne, IN 46802
260-423-9424
office@plymouthfw.org

Unitarian Universalist Congregation of Fort Wayne
5310 Old Mill Road, Fort Wayne, IN 46807, phone: (219) 744-1867
Worship 10:30am Sun,

Unity Christ Church
4200 Leroy . . Fort Wayne, IN 46805
ph: 482-2477 - Dial-A-Prayer: 483-5719

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Our next regular monthly meeting will be 7:00PM on Tuesday, October 14 at Plymouth Congregational Church, 501 W. Berry Street in Fort Wayne.

If our next meeting would be your first (or even second) - please do email or call Roger (260-749-4987 -Ft.W) to share your concerns &/or situation so we can be aware of of them and bring together the best people to better help you. Our focus is on helping people with understanding and getting along. - If you just show up - that's OK too. <g>

* * Email : pflagfortwayne@gmail.com // or call 749-4987 * *

* * Transgender Support - Fort Wayne * * We are working with others to provide growing support for parents with transgender children (no matter what the age) as well as adults who are transgender & spouses of transgender people. Mail or call us and we will let you know what is going on. It is growing and if we can be of support, let us know. - - - Click HERE or above to see that page .

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PFLAG Founder
A teacher with unconditional love, walks in support of her son.
click on the picture to learn more about Jeanne Manford

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We are working to make some changes in our meeting structure. Our main purpose is to be more helpful and positive to one another without negative distractions.

Guests are invited to our meetings because we are here to help.  If you are a parent and want a safe and confidential place to share your concerns, you are invited.  You are why we are here.  There are also gay and lesbian people who sometimes attend and they often can add to the support – and sometimes receive support as well. 

Because we are a peer based support group, we invite people to attend who would benefit from an opportunity to share and learn from others in a safe and non-threatening environment.   It is an opportunity to be with people who have been through their own experiences and have grown to have greater understandings that enable them to help others.

Our goals are to listen, try to understand just where you are, share our experiences and to present positive and practical answers to your questions. 

The important word is "invited." If you are not sure if we are the place for you to be or have a different reason for wanting to attend, just ask in an e-mail or give us a call. 


* * * * *We will do our best to help anyone who has an issue, concern or question.

Meeting Disclaimer
We invite people to our gatherings who need to share and can help each other in positive ways.  The purpose of these meetings is to offer support, comfort and understanding to parents, families and friends of LGBT individuals.  We are a volunteer organization and are not professional therapists or counselors.  We ask that each of us be respectful of all persons attending, hold what is discussed in confidence, not engage in a personal or political agendas, nor engage in profanity.  Negative comments about any visitor's religion or belief are not permitted.

For those of you new to PFLAG, we encourage you to share your story or concerns when you feel comfortable doing so. If you would like to meet privately with a more experienced PFLAG parent, just let us know.

Call Roger & Rachel at 749-4987 for more information or just to talk.. . . .

* * Send Email to: pflagfortwayne@gmail.com * *


Zach Wahls Speaks About Family

Zach Wahls, a 19-year-old University of Iowa student spoke about the strength of his family during a public forum on House Joint Resolution 6 in the Iowa House of Representatives. Wahls has two mothers, and came to oppose House Joint Resolution 6 which would end civil unions in Iowa.The fight to to keep marriage equality in Iowa continues as some in Indiana move toward adding discrimination to the Indiana Constitution. Help us support all citizens who has a committed, loving, and important relationship with each other. If those of us who care will not help share understanding - who will?

 


Bullies, Rejection and Ignorance By Many
Motivate Some Youth To Choose Suicide

While there has been, for a long time, concern about the high rate of suicide with youth in general, the rate among GLBT youth is nearly four times greater that of their straight peers. Today it is on the news and in the minds of people as never before and that can only be helpful to addressing the option that has no recourse.

IT GETS BETTER PROJECT . . We are appreciative of the Suicide Prevention effort aimed at GLBT youth on You Tube from Dan Savage. It tells gay teens that adult life isn't nearly as crappy as high school. Lots to learn and experience that could help youth (or anyone) contemplating ending it. Contributions are by those who have gone through the hard times and cover a wide variety of people, experiences and have all come out better for it. The Index in arecent issue of Newsweek gave the site an extremely high "94" as positive for Culture. See them here. The Give a Damn Campaign has been begun to combat teen suicide. Watch the You Tube first video (we really like it) and then go to the We Give A Damn web site. The Trevor Project is a nonprofit endeavor established to promote acceptance of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning (LGBTQ) youth, and to aid in suicide prevention. I (RM) have heard a lot of good things about this group, but am having trouble figuring it out from the web site. At a PFLAG meeting, let me know what you think of The Trevor Project



All in God's Family - a resource for understanding

bookOver the last few years, The Family Equality Council has asked what areas of family life should they focus their work on. Time and again, making faith communities more welcoming and affirming of LGBT families has topped the lists. That's why they have released a new LGBT family-inclusive faith curriculum, All in God's Family: Creating Allies for Our LGBT Families.

Developed by the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force's Institute for Welcoming Resources, Family Equality Council and COLAGE, this multimedia resource engages faith communities and faith leaders in conversation on how best to embrace our families.Faith is an important part of many of our lives. All in God's Family provides a guiding hand to those who seek to make their faith communities more knowledgeable about and inclusive of LGBT families, from lessons on scripture to activity suggestions and more. In the months and years to come, we will expand on this work. To do that, and to encourage faith communities to adopt the curriculum now, they need to hear from you. Tell them how your faith community makes your family feel welcomed and included and/or what makes you feel less included. Click here to read a sample story and get started.

They want to hear from you and your family as you share your stories and provide feedback on this new resource for LGBT families.

Jennifer Chrisler, Executive Director of the Family Equality Council

National Gay & Lesbian Task Force Institute for Welcoming

Mildred Loving of Loving v. Virginia, on gay marriage.
Loving v. Virginia, which struck down the last remaining state laws banning interracial marriage.

Richard and Mildred Loving went to Washington, D.C., in 1958 to marry because they were in love and Virginia, where they lived, prohibited their marriage. Richard was white and Mildred of African American and American Indian heritage. They did not intend to make a political statement. But one night as they slept at home in their bed, the couple were awakened and arrested, charged with violating the Virginia marriage law. They were sentenced to one year in prison. The Lovings appealed their conviction and the case went all the way to the Supreme Court, which ruled in their favor on June 12, 1967.Mildred Loving recently said, "My generation was bitterly divided over something that should have been so clear and right." "The majority believed what the [trial] judge said, that it was God's plan to keep people apart, and that government should discriminate against people in love. But I have lived long enough now to see big changes."Not a day goes by that I don't think of Richard and our love, our right to marry, and how much it meant to me to have that freedom to marry the person precious to me, even if others thought he was the 'wrong kind of person' for me to marry.

"I believe that all Americans, no matter their race, no matter their sex, no matter their sexual orientation, should have that same freedom to marry. Government has no business imposing some people's religious beliefs over others. Especially if it denies people's civil rights," she wrote.



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On Pastor Rick Warren from Milissa Etheridge

EThis is a message for my brothers and sisters who have fought so long and so hard for gay rights and liberty. We have spent a long time climbing up this mountain, looking at the impossible, changing a thousand year-old paradigm. We have asked for the right to love the human of our choice, and to be protected equally under the laws of this great country. The road at times has been so bloody, and so horrible, and so disheartening. From being blamed for 9/11 and Katrina, to hateful crimes committed against us, we are battle weary. We watched as our nation took a step in the right direction, against all odds and elected Barack Obama as our next leader. Then we were jerked back into the last century as we watched our rights taken away by prop 8 in California. Still sore and angry we felt another slap in the face as the man we helped get elected seemingly invited a gay-hater to address the world at his inauguration.I hadn't heard of Pastor Rick Warren before all of this. When I heard the news, in its neat little sound bite form that we are so accustomed to, it painted the picture for me. This Pastor Rick must surely be one hate spouting, money grabbing, bad hair televangelist like all the others. He probably has his own gay little secret bathroom stall somewhere, you know. One more hater working up his congregation to hate the gays, comparing us to pedophiles and those who commit incest, blah blah blah. Same 'ole thing. Would I be boycotting the inauguration? Would we be marching again?Well, I have to tell you my friends, the universe has a sense of humor and indeed works in mysterious ways. As I was winding down the promotion for my Christmas album I had one more stop last night. I'd agreed to play a song I'd written with my friend Salman Ahmed, a Sufi Muslim from Pakistan. The song is called "Ring The Bells," and it's a call for peace and unity in our world. We were going to perform our song for the Muslim Public Affairs Council, a group of Muslim Americans that tries to raise awareness in this country, and the world, about the majority of good, loving, Muslims. I was honored, considering some in the Muslim religion consider singing to be against God, while other Muslim countries have harsh penalties, even death for homosexuals. I felt it was a very brave gesture for them to make. I received a call the day before to inform me of the keynote speaker that night... Pastor Rick Warren. I was stunned. My fight or flight instinct took over, should I cancel? Then a calm voice inside me said, "Are you really about peace or not?"I told my manager to reach out to Pastor Warren and say "In the spirit of unity I would like to talk to him." They gave him my phone number. On the day of the conference I received a call from Pastor Rick, and before I could say anything, he told me what a fan he was. He had most of my albums from the very first one. What? This didn't sound like a gay hater, much less a preacher. He explained in very thoughtful words that as a Christian he believed in equal rights for everyone. He believed every loving relationship should have equal protection. He struggled with proposition 8 because he didn't want to see marriage redefined as anything other than between a man and a woman. He said he regretted his choice of words in his video message to his congregation about proposition 8 when he mentioned pedophiles and those who commit incest. He said that in no way, is that how he thought about gays. He invited me to his church, I invited him to my home to meet my wife and kids. He told me of his wife's struggle with breast cancer just a year before mine.When we met later that night, he entered the room with open arms and an open heart. We agreed to build bridges to the future.Brothers and sisters the choice is ours now. We have the world's attention. We have the capability to create change, awesome change in this world, but before we change minds we must change hearts. Sure, there are plenty of hateful people who will always hold on to their bigotry like a child to a blanket. But there are also good people out there, Christian and otherwise that are beginning to listen. They don't hate us, they fear change. Maybe in our anger, as we consider marches and boycotts, perhaps we can consider stretching out our hands. Maybe instead of marching on his church, we can show up en mass and volunteer for one of the many organizations affiliated with his church that work for HIV/AIDS causes all around the world.Maybe if they get to know us, they wont fear us.I know, call me a dreamer, but I feel a new era is upon us.I will be attending the inauguration with my family, and with hope in my heart. I know we are headed in the direction of marriage equality and equal protection for all families.Happy Holidays my friends and a Happy New Year to you.Peace on earth, goodwill toward all men and women... and everyone in-between.- Melissa

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We will try to bring to you the very best YouTube and other videos as well as current
helpful information we can. Please share any suggestions you have with rmcnett04@att.net
We have more that is just waiting to be put up as soon as we figure out the best way to share with you.


Michelle Obama Speaks to DNC's Gay & Lesbian Leadership Council
This speach is well worth the listen.



A Local PFLAG Family is There To Share Our Side of the Issues as
Indiana News Center Tells of Local Reaction to Same Sex Mariage in California
Go to the INC web site where you can click to watch the story.
The video has been removed, but you can watch it HERE and hear Norman the parrot.


Where do the presidential candidates stand on LGBT issues?
We will put the up as we find them.

Obama Local site . . . McCain Local site - still looking


If you have seven minutes to spare, click here to see the unusual story of a cat and a crow.
For a shorter version.


Equality IS an American Value!

Take Action Against Hate Crimes


The Human Right Campaign on the Federal Hate Crimes Bill


Al Gore Speaks Out on Gay Marriage

"Gay men and women ought to have the same rights as heterosexual men and women -- to make contracts, to have hospital visiting rights, to join together in marriage, and I don't understand why it is considered by some people to be a threat to heterosexual marriage," he says on the video, which appears on his Current TV network. "Shouldn't we be promoting the kind of faithfulness and loyalty to ones partner regardless of sexual orientation?"

The leading Democratic presidential candidates have tiptoed up to, but not crossed, the line of support for same-sex marriage. All three support equal substantive rights for gay and lesbians couples but, for the most part, have tried to have it both ways on the issue. - Thanks, John Good


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    Call or write your state senator about this today. Tomorrow WILL be too late.

     


  • You might want to visit the web site of Faith In America, a group who speaks for understanding. The fundamental mission of Faith In America is to end bigotry disguised as religious truth and in doing so, ensure full and equal civil rights for the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community in America. The world’s great religious traditions practiced within the United States of America emphasize the love of neighbor as well as the love of God. Compassion, justice, freedom, and respect for the dignity of all people are their most authentic and noble expressions.

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    GL or LG ? - - Ok, what is all this silliness about GLBT vs LGBT? Oh, now, people like the Bilerico Project are using LGBTQ. Let us think . . What dies the Q stand for? Well, I think it is all a bit queer. What should come first, the L or the G? Which ever comes first, we invite you to come as you are.- - RM The Bilerico Project is an informative and humorous GLBT web site that you might appreciate.

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    Two Downloads
    Jesus, the Bible and Homosexuality flyer.doc (msword) or Nov. 3 flyer.doc (msword)


    Click here for a
    A great web site for those with any conflict between Christianity and people who are GLBT
    Would Jesus Discriminate?
    Take your time to watch, listen, read and get ammo to blast the bigots.
    Suggestion: read the comments when you click on the Billboards on the right side.

    Families Joined By Love

    Families Joined by Love ( www.familiesjoinedbylove.com ), a comprehensive bookstore, resource center, and discussion community for LGBT families and the important people in their lives, announces the launch of its website on August 1.We have created this sophisticated new resource for LGBT families in response to a growing need within the LGBT community for information and literature on topics related to parenting, adoption, legal and financial issues, and other areas of interest for current and prospective LGBT parents. Despite the ever-growing number of children in need of adoption worldwide, and the increasing cost-effectiveness of fertility treatments, LGBT individuals and couples are often viewed as unsuitable candidates for parenthood.At Families Joined by Love, we recognize the tremendous potential that LGBT individuals possess not only as partners in healthy and constructive romantic relationships, but also as parents and mentors. By making information about the journey to and through parenthood widely available to LGBT families, we hope to empower this unique and valuable demographic in overcoming the many obstacles that can block the path to becoming a parent.Our store got started in 1992, with a basic mail-order catalog and eventually a website catering to LGBT families; for this new incarnation of Families Joined by Love, we have created a much more diverse and sophisticated resource. We currently offer books and other publications, resource listings and links, and a wide array of discussion forums.Visit our new website at www.familiesjoinedbylove.com to see the full range of literature and resources that we provide for LGBT families and their supporters. With this website, we strive to provide not only a comprehensive selection of informational books and resources, but also a nurturing and safe environment in which LGBT families and their supporters can come together for discussion, activism, and support.If you would like more information about Families Joined by Love, would like printed postcards from FJBL to distribute to your members, or have a question about any aspect of our website, please contact us at the number listed below or email us at www.familiesjoinedbylove.com/contactus.shtml . Also, be sure to sign up for our email list for bookstore updates, news items of current events of interest to LGBT families, and special promotional offers. In case you have a newsletter or a blog, I’ve attached a press release your convenience. You can find instructions about linking to our website at www.familiesjoinedbylove.com/misc/linktous.shtml.


    Laurie Wallmark, President
    Xan Nowakowski, Vice President


    "We must encourage tolerance, we must advocate for safety, we must speak out against hate, and we must do it now."
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    Nancy McDonald, former PFLAG National President

    This web site is declared safe! Regardless of race, ethnicity, national origin, gender, sexual orientation, religion, age, and ability, you will be treated and respected as a human being. Ignorance, bigotry, and harassment will not be tolerated.

    PFLAG of Fort Wayne
    3925 Shoreline Blvd.
    New Haven, IN 46774-2752
    (260) 749-4987
    pflagfortwayne@gmail.com

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