How Can We Save Marriage?. . or . Who Cares About Gay Marriage?

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When you read anything, it is good to know a little bit about the author to judge whether he or she knows what they are talking about, whether or not there is prejudice and what are the real reason for sharing. This is my story - and I'm sticking to it.

One night after motorcycle riding

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I am a 64 year old retired Indiana teacher, with a bachelors degree from Manchester College and a masters degree from Ball State University. Rachel and I have been very happily married for 40 years, have two married daughters and four and a half grandchildren. Besides teaching I have worked as a carpenter, architectural draftsman and am currently doing web pages and helping people and causes, like this one, that I support. My travels have taken me to ten foreign countries and my interests are many. My wife and I stay fit by exercising often, we eat carefully, love to ride our motorcycle and I - only I - take care of Norman, my Senegal parrot (who is sitting on my shoulder as I type this). Our lives are full and we keep involved in trying to make a positive difference by being active and kind.

I have learned, over the years, to have a greater understanding of my many friends and acquaintances who happen to be gay or lesbian - as well as many of their parents. Much of my awareness comes because, as a sociology major in college, I have learned to better appreciate how people work together and understand their relationships. Working with youth in schools has taught me how young folks work to come to grips with all sorts of emotions, confusing messages they get from the outside world and how they struggle to make sense of their lives. Much of what I know about gay and lesbian issues comes from eight years with PFLAG, reading materials that are informative and not bigoted, talking and sharing with gay and lesbian friends and working with and learning from the children (most of whom are adults) and their parents as they develop an understanding that helps bring personal acceptance, support and assistance in making appropriate choices in life. My life is so much better because of my inclusive array of friends - all of them.

I have tried to bring some understanding to the confusion of this hurtful wedge issue, My hope is that you will find the same peace I have found with good information, awareness and a bit of compassion.


I ask you to remember - Avoid stereotypes because each person is unique, everyone contributes in his or her own way and maybe you can be a part of the solution and not part of the problem. In any case, understanding is better than prejudice and compassion makes you so much happier than being angry.

Everything I want to share is on the other page. There is so much to tell, but I realize that everyone, by their personal nature, will see all things uniquely. What I share has been our experience of growing understanding of gay and lesbian issues.

To know little or to be prejudiced about this important segment of our population, is to miss the opportunity to expand your understanding, appreciation and opportunities for personal growth and understanding.


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